The word “Motivation” comes from the Latin word for “to move”. It is a goal-oriented behavior. In essence, we take action because it feels good to do so. It is fine to take a break once a while, as this will make you more effective when you get back to work. The key challenge comes when instant gratification will not happen. For teenagers and young adults, it is natural for them wanting to see instant gratification than delay gratification . Their brains are still developing the ability to reason from cause to effect. In order to feel motivated, we have to tap into the part of ourselves that has a longer view, which also feels right.
Seeing the perspective
All of us make countless decisions every hour. What should I have for lunch? Which book should I read first? Should I do homework? Which person should I ask? In part, we make those decisions unconsciously based on our patterns and habits – the things we learned from our families. We also make decisions based on our personal priorities. However, if we want to redirect our decision to be able to see the perspective, we need to both shape unconscious habits and examine priorities to make sure they match. Therefore, completing the assignments between sessions is far more likely to lead to permanent change than the time spent in sessions.
Being in the Right Environment
In addition to motivating ourselves, it is important to learn being in the right environment where others can become motivated. One of the best metaphor I have come across is "Fish out of water." When a fish is out of water it will be struggling to survive, once you put it back into water it will swim freely. The key is you will be at your best in the right environment. Placing people in the right environment is the key to positive motivation.